Kirk/? Accidental Trans!Fic

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I'm remembering a nuTrek fanfiction where Bones discovers that Jim is actually Jane, who has been on hormones for years, as hir mother gave them to hir, in an effort to change gender, without knowledge or consent.
Does anyone else know this fic?

The Wonderful World of...Hand Sex!

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... yeah betcha never thought of that one Disney.

Anyway, I'm new here -- hello! I was pretty excited to find this community.

Anyway, my request is fairly general actually and sorta in two parts.
First I was wondering if anyone could recommend good sources to learn about "Vulcan kissing" and other such hand involved shenanigans. I have seen Search for Spock, which was my first experience with the whole... ritualistic kissing(??) but i was wondering if there were other really good sources with demonstration or describe the intricacies of Vulcan intimacy. I'm looking for episode recs, star trek novels, even online resources ( I am familiar with Memory Alpha -- a wonderful source). I'm just very curious about this "alternative" means of intimacy, especially as of late :3

On that note, my second request is for some feisty/sexy/tender/all-around-breathtaking.inspiring hand centric fics. I have absolutely no preference for which universe, though I do prefer kirk/spock fics; I am entirely open to read any sort of story with a Vulcan character (Tuvok, T'Pol, etc)  that features well written and uhh "informative" hand scenes. PWP, Plotty, Fluff, Angst -- I would be happy to read any and all. 

thank you all for your help, I'm pleased to be here!

lenny